To be close is not to be intimate. I can cuddle up to my dog, but that does not equate to intimacy. A mother is exceptionally close to her newborn, but, again, that does not imply an intimate relationship. These examples seem obvious, but most people I work with, and most people I talk to, automatically …
Abandonment is a catchy word. In the therapy world, you’ll often time see it preceding such words as: issues, problems, trauma, anxiety, ect. The basic story is: I had experiences of abandonment when I was young (some of these experiences may have even been preconscious) and now I live in constant fear of it happening …
1) Have the same conflict again and again without resolution 2) Hire your child(ren) to take your side against your partner 3) Have ineffective or, better yet, non-existent boundaries 4) Make your children your primary confidants 5) Keep secrets 6) Blame your partner and your children for not having the …
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Many families are aware that they could stand some improvement. They admit, for example, that they’d like to be more intimate and less enmeshed, more joyful and less resentful, more open and less distant, more successful and less despondent. These wishes, however, are rarely enough to motivate the family to do the admittedly unenviable task …
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Every living creature, human and otherwise, has a survival strategy. The Texas Horned Lizard shoots blood out of its eyeballs. The Komodo bites its prey and then follows them around waiting for them to die from the resulting infection. The gazelle runs fast. No thanks, I’d rather keep killing stuff Humans have slightly different, less …
